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According to recent studies, depression rates strike over the festive season. The dark weather, the weight gain and the get together with old friends and family that you don’t see often can cause a feeling of melancholy. Here are my personal top tips how to stay positive and motivated during Christmas time and the cold winter months.

  • Sad-Dog-In-Christmas-Hat-dpMake a plan

After the excitement of Christmas, going back to the old, regular routine is something that lowers lots of people’s spirits. So make a plan what you will do after Christmas. This might be to book a holiday in the sun that you can look forward to, writing that thesis, or doing something from which you will benefit later on.

  • Do some exercise

The serotonin that exercise creates actually works to make you feel better, as it releases mood boosting endorphins. So why not go ice skating with a friend or just go for a nice winter walk and enjoy the christmas lightening as well as a nice cup of hot chocolate when you return home.

  • Avoid over-eating

It will not only make you feel guilty but stressed out after Christmas because you need to lose all the weight afterwards.

  • Go to the sauna or the solarium

During the cold winter month it is very dark outside which can lower your mood. The gentle warmth of a good old sauna or the light in a solarium can lift up your spirits again.

  • Stay busy and social

The worst thing you could do is to stay at home all by yourself and do nothing. So get your ass from your sofa and go out there. Meet up with your friends and always stay busy and social.

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Always keep in mind that your own thoughts create your mood and your entire reality, so just stay positive. I wish you all a merry Christmas and that you will beat your winter blues 🙂

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I love February because it means carnival, valentine’s day and of course my birthday 🙂 It’s actually my birthday today and while you are reading this I’m off to Brussels.

HelloFebruaryUsually I’m spending my big day surrounded by my family with lots of cake, but for my 25th Birthday I wanted to do something special and travel to a place I’ve never been before. While I’m more than aware of how very young 25 still is, I kind of feel the urge to reflect on myself as a person, what I have achieved so far and on my goals because turning 25, I can’t just say “I’m in my early 20s” anymore. It means that there are no longer excuses for bad decision-making because I’m still “so young and trying to figure everything out”. More than that, it also means that this is the time that you should be a help, instead of a burden, for your parents.

This again means that you should actually start choosing a career and stick to it whilst progressing and developing yourself. Furthermore it also means that you can’t jump in and out in relationships and “see what it brings” but start choosing a man who you can actually imagine to stay with him forever. To me, Twenty-five is when things start to change, begin to turn over — I am going to finish my studies in July and will start applying for jobs and because the village I’m living in at the moment is so small, I know that I will have to move to a very different place where I will meet very different people…

For me, it also means it would be five more years until I turn 30 and want to get married and have kids. It’s a wake up call to actually take matters in my own hands and start creating and living the life that I actually want!  So no reason to panic- just a reason to finally start living the life you want 🙂

My sister's Raffaello cake

My sister’s Raffaello cake

What does turning 25 mean to you or what did it mean to you? Happy Birthday to everyone who is turning 25- you will be just fine 😉

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Poem: Deception

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When everything around you is rushing and fading away like the golden lights of cars in the rain whizzing by

When words as soon as they leave your mouth are hitting the heart like plowing raindrops, leaving the soul in trembling uncertainty and making their way to your salty eye

When everything else seems to be painted in hundreds shades of cold grey

When the dark tunnel gets longer, hiding the warmth of the light and echoing your own dumb sounds

There seemed to be you.

But life is not standing still and if you do so, it will overtake you as fast as lightning.

When in the end there is nothing left than the bitter doubt of deception lurking in the mind.

There is me.

 

 

 

by Kim Heinz

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It seems that the pursuit of hapiness is never ending — it’s what we all strive to find and keep. Nobody is jolly and elated all the time, but some individuals are definitely more fulfilled than others. In school we once read a book by François le Lord about the pursue of happiness in ethics. Since then I was very curious to find out the true reason why some people are being happy and others are not. I’ve researched a lot in the internet and even read some more books about it. Here I want to share with you the main findings of several hapiness researches I have studied.

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According to latest research, we each have a baseline level of happiness. No matter what happens, good or bad, the effect on our happiness is temporary and we tend to revert to our baseline level. So even if you achieve that promotion, the marriage with your longterm boyfriend and so on, you will adapt to that positive change in your life very quickly and after this you will feel just as happy as you did before your achievements. Some people have a higher baseline happiness level than others, and that is due in part to genetics, but it’s also largely influenced by how you think.

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  1. So advice number 1 would be to always try to think positive instead of always picturing the gloomiest outcome to oneself. Your girlfriend break up with you? Now you have the chance to meet someone else! You lost your job? Now you can seize the opportunity to find a better one! Adjust your mentality so that, in everything that happens to you, there’s some kernel of good.
  2.  Stay busy and be social                                                                                                      If you want to be happier, develop an outgoing, social personality — accept that drinks invitation, join the walking club, book group or choir. The best way to be happy is in the company of others, so keep building your social life, because it’s not only fun but also meaningful and rewarding.
  3. Stop comparing                                                                                                          Ambition is good but envy destroys your positive feelings, making you unhappy. If you always compare yourself with people who are in some way better off than you, it can spoil the benefits of ambition so be very careful with comparing yourself to others. Instead,  focus on yourself, work on your goals and dreams  so you can enjoy  your ambition and achievements.
  4. Be grateful for what you have                                                                               Research shows that happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations — they want what they can get — while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. So try to strive for realistic goals and be grateful for what you have. Sometimes we must accept things as they come and enjoy what we have.
  5. Be authentic                                                                                                                    Just stop worrying  about what others think about you! Only then, you can truly be yourself. Happy people are spontaneous, natural and don’t pretend to be someone they are not to impress others. If people don’t like the real you, they are not worth your time. Be real, say what you think and  feel and you will feel free, authentic and happy
  6. Treat your body like it deserves to be happy                                                            Your brain isn’t the only organ in your body that deserves to be happy. Researchers have found that exercise, healthy diets, and regular sleep are key factors in growing more happy and staying that way.

Find out what the other 6 scientific findings on how to become happy are in my next post 🙂

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Poem: In my dreams

When I close my eyes I see memories with you floating by in black and white like a movie, the smell of your perfume still in my nose.

When I open my eyes I see that you are not here, your warmth is gone, the smell of your perfume slowly fading away.

In my dreams I see how things could have been. Colourful, glimmering sequences of on old, blurred filmlet.

I hear sounds, voices, people, laughter everywhere. Far away

just not here. Inside me, everything is quiet.

It’s a bright, lovely and sunny summer day.

But not here. Here, it’s winter.

Only you bring me summer, people and laughter

in my dreams.

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poem by Kim Heinz

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Here, I want to share with you my dreams and goals that I have in life. Some people write bucket lists because they are dying… but I am writing one because I want to live 😉

Sometimes, a bucket list can help you better visualise the goals you have in life, so that you know exactly what you want in life and can work on getting there.

The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

  • Travel 

Italy (Rome, Venice)✓

Kyoto (Japan)

Provence, Normandie (France)

Turkey (Istanbul)

Seychelle Islands

Fiji

Bali (Indonesia)

Amsterdam✓

Thailand✓

USA (Florida, Washington D.C., New York)

Brazil (Rainforest, Rio de Janeiro)

China (Chinese Wall, tea houses)

Barcelona

Bora Bora

Russia (St. Petersburg, Moscow)

Mexico✓

Mykonos (Greece)

Brussels

  • Education/Work/Accomplish

Bachelor’s Degree✓

Master’s Degree✓

Find a job I love and can identify with/Self-employed✓

Make money with blogging

Put up YouTube videos

Write a blog ✓

Write and publish a book✓

Perform in a musical production ✓

Get the leading part in a musical production

Learn how to play the piano (✓ in progress)

Learn Latin dance (salsa, bachata, rumba, cha cha, paso doble ✓

Learn Tango✓

Take part in a professional dance competition (D✓ C, B, A, S class)

Be on the podiom on a dance competition✓

Own a boat

Get a boat driver’s licence

  • Adventure

Diving

Skydiving

Swim with dolphines

Ride an elephant✓

Drive a yacht

Go on a safari trip in Africa

See the Lion King Musical in Hamburg

See Wicked Musical

Banana boat ride✓

Water skiing

One weekend in Disneyland Paris

  • Life

Get own puppy or kitten

Find true love✓

move together with the true love

marry at the beach

have a baby

Have own property (flat with garden/house)

*I may add some things later- this is a list in progress.

What do YOU want in life? 🙂 Tell me in the comments below or make a bucket list on your own-it will help to realise what you really want. xoxo  Kim.

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Poem: Blurred water circles

Clear water turned cloudy or ist the cloudiness that is slowly vanishing?

Once I heard your whispers in my ear, now I hear blurred reminders in my head of something that never really has been.

Through rumours, through the smile, talk and walk of other people, through the sound of a sweet or a bitter melody, through the frictions of thunderstorms, through the smell of rain falling down the streets on a hot summer day, through the shadows that a lantern throws on the pavement and through blurred water circles in the pond

I sentence them.

Water circles, waves and ripples are formed by responding to stones thrown into the water.

They are tranquil and lively at the same time, they are the circles of live.

But no one is throwing a stone anymore. Maybe there will be rain?

watercirclespoem by Kim Heinz

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